Peace vs. a Piece of a Man: Why More Choiceful Women Are Choosing Singlehood Over Settling

Peace vs. Piece of a Man

In a recent podcast episode of IMO with Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson, Tracee Ellis Ross sat down and discussed what it means to be dating as a "Choiceful Woman" with a full life. She shared how she has navigated dating in her 50s and has no interest in being in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. If a person doesn't make her life better than what it is, she doesn't see the point in settling.

And, of course, like clockwork, social media ran with this conversation. Some commentators went as far as calling her "washed," assuming that a woman of a certain age who is still single has to be the "problem." How dare a woman of any age prioritize standards and peace over just having someone? More women are choosing their independence, careers, and overall life of their choosing without the ball and chain of societal norms.

Why More Choiceful Women Are Embracing Being Single

Having choices has altered the way many women approach dating today. More choiceful women are choosing singlehood because they're no longer willing to sacrifice their peace. The days of settling for relationships that drain rather than uplift are dwindling. Modern women are redefining happiness, and for many, that means prioritizing inner peace over romantic partnerships that offer only fragments of what they truly deserve.

While some women will settle for ironing their husband's clothes before he heads out to cheat and call it love, more women are saying absolutely not. Touting struggle love and calling it a God-ordained vocation is simply not appealing where peace of mind is a priority.

This isn't a "man-bashing" movement. It's not even bashing women who have less than ideal partners. It's a self-empowerment shift. Women aren't rejecting love; they're rejecting the idea that they must settle for a partner who doesn't bring emotional intelligence, respect, or real partnership to the equation.

Wholeness Without a Relationship

The myth that a woman is "incomplete" without a man is fading. It is dated. Today, single women are thriving while building successful careers, traveling the world, nurturing meaningful friendships, and investing in personal growth. This modern single-woman lifestyle isn't about loneliness; it's about liberation.

Women today are also learning what different forms of abuse look like. A lot of it has been romanticized and normalized into the culture of dating and marriage for so long that calling it abuse causes a stir. With the rose-colored glasses gone, women are aspiring for everything that they require or nothing from men at all.

The Power of Choosing Peace

Many women have watched previous generations endure toxic, one-sided, or unfulfilling relationships in the name of stability or social acceptance. Now, we're seeing a powerful rejection of that model. With more awareness of what different forms of abuse look like, women are boldly saying no more.

A relationship that only offers a piece of a man, a misogynistic ideology that allows men to feel superior at the expense of a woman's safety and security, is not a relationship worth settling for. Not in the 21st century, where women can simply choose to take care of themselves and each other. Choice women are not interested in being therapists, punching bags, and appliances. They want reciprocity and emotional intelligence. They want healthy love. Not chaos disguised as passion.

For years, statistics have shown that men thrive and live longer when they are partnered or married. All the while, women have done the opposite. Instead, they live longer when they opt out of partnerships. Desiring peace shouldn't be controversial. Moreover, it shouldn't be a trade-off just to have a relationship.